He loves me, he loves me not

After reading the post in Monkey's blog, I feel stirred and I think I should blog about it..hehehe..Here goes.

How to tell if a guy likes you. This is a tough nut to crack. I mean different people have different characters. Well of course there are some general signs or symptoms that guys show but are they all applicable? For me, in the game of love, there is no concrete rule or signs that is stipulated in the Love Bible. There is no Love Bible in the 1st place. Girls especially, immersed in love hold on to articles like ' Does He Like You' or ' How To Make Him Fall' like dear life; memorizing details from the articles and trying to apply them into real life. When I was younger, I was gullible enough to worship those articles and I try to slip it in every opportunity I get. Naive right? I know..hahaha..But as I grew up, I begin to realize that there is no law that you can strictly follow in love.

What I learned is, love is a very limber and subjective subject. One cant specifically state why he/ she like someone when others don't. If you can, then you ought to consider whether you like that person or is it just mere admiration. That is what makes love so unconditional but at the same time that is what caused most misery. When you can't identify why you like someone, then you can't pinpoint the source of the problem. Thus, this is the situation called stuck in love aka unable to let go. Once I have this friend who had problem with his gf. He always call me to ask "How do I make her appreciate me?" or "Why doesn't she like me anymore?". I can't give him a clear cut answer of course. I'm no Dr. Love but I know where I stand to judge whether I have a chance or not. Others may call this pessimism but I say this is what saves me from doing the absurd. Ego is my weakness and also defense.

I've watched many people succumb to love...haha..I didn't escape the spell of love as well. And I've seen many fight hard to move on and not less falter too. I've seen extreme cases to where one totally cut off ties from another in order to move on. And I've seen many ended with peace. Call me lucky but all of mine ended peacefully. No grudges held.

Recipes for letting go? I bet there is no definite one too. I guess the best cure is time. Most crucial is to stop yourself from feeling more pain. Making yourself believe that it has ended is the 1st step. Stop banking on false hopes. Pretending not to care is a dead end step. You can't lie to yourself that you don't care anymore. Each time you try to convince yourself that you're over it is going to drain more energy from you. I think letting things flow and just be positive is the best. And also, just accept things with an open mind and heart.

True enough the saying ' Heroes are fools when they are in love'. Couldn't agree less. Need to sleep soon. Good day people.